How I Learned To Love & Like Me

Some time after we are born, sometimes, we forget or stop liking and loving ourselves. I know that I did. The reasons are multitudinous for why this happens. Typically it will involve a feeling of insecurity about ourselves, or a feeling of loathing that comes due to feeling/being different or not "normal." These negative thoughts and feelings are then confirmed in some way, real or implied, during the course of our interactions with people and the world around us.

Some of us get through the bad feelings and are able to abolish the negative thoughts fairly early or before they are able to stick with us. Some of us are not able to rid ourselves of the feelings and thoughts that don't serve us. It wasn't until my 30's that I began to recognize and tackle the negativity that kept me from loving and liking me. Once the process began, it wasn't easy, but by not giving up and reminding myself, sometimes moment by moment, that I was good and worthy of love--for, and from myself--negativity began to weaken and the positivity became stronger.

Below are some of the things that I did, and still do, to learn to love and like me:
  • I stopped trying to live up to the expectations of everyone except myself

  • I got to know myself so that I could authentically be myself

  • I embraced and learned to love all of my emotions

  • I learned how to meditate

  • I learned how to regularly speak life to myself and actively work to challenge and rid myself of negative self-talk

  • I made friends and regularly spend time with others who challenge and inspire me to be the best I can be and I do the same for them. 

  • I created a mission and vision for myself that resonates with who I am and endeavor to live my mission and vision daily.

It's never too late to start loving and liking yourself. In the words of RuPaul: "If you can't love yourself how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"